Blog Archives

3 Ways to Prepare for RSV and Flu Season – Special Needs Edition


RSV, Cold, and Flu season is here, it begins around October and goes through May.  Flu shot vaccine helps prevent spreading of the flu virus.  There are many reasons why people you should go out and get the flu shot, but if you have a special needs child getting a flu shot is critical to their health.  Max received his flu shot once they became available, and we all (my family) plan to receive one for Max’s health.  Please go out and get your flu shot to prevent the flu illness.

Respiratory Syncytical Virus (RSV) is a common cold in most, but in premature babies it can be fatal if not treated properly.

Read the rest of this entry

How Do I Answer this Question??? Dang, Why Did they Ask Me that Question?? Please, Don’t Ask Me that Question!

hard question

Every now and then, when I meet new people who don’t our (My wife and I) story, or when I see people who forgot the details of our story, we get these questions;How many children do you have? Do you want more children?” These questions in itself are innocent and honest questions, very normal, harmless, and not meant to offend. However, when I get asked these questions, thousands of thoughts began to run through my mind. Let me tell you why!!

In 2012, my wife and I found out we were pregnant with our first child in February of that year, and to be expecting our bundle of joy later in December of 2012. As new parents, we made sure to do all the right things, such as Erica taking her prenatal vitamins, going to the ultra-sound appointments, down syndrome testing, child birthing classes, baby shower, purchased a home, baby furniture, prayer, read to the child, talk to the child, and stuff that my wife did, that I’m probably forgetting or not aware of. We were having a boy and his name was going to be, Brandon Oscar McAfee, Jr. We were beyond excited, especially me, because I was having a boy! Without going into too many details, sadly on November 29, 2012, our son died unexpectedly. He was a full-term baby and none of the prenatal tests indicated that this was a possibility. WHAT A SHOCKER!!!

infant loss

Well, in the words of the late Aaliyah, “If at first you don’t succeed (first you don’t succeed), Dust yourself off, and try again, You can dust it off and try again, try again.” So, that’s what we did, we tried again and Erica was pregnant again a few months later. This time we were expecting a girl! Sweet, I’d love to raise a “daddy’s girl!” Fast forward to July 12, 2013, at 18 weeks pregnant, Erica’s cervix opens up, and we have to deliver our daughter. Sadly, another child lost. Her name was Brielle.

Finally, 13-months later, we give birth to our bundle of joy, Super Mighty Max. If you’ve been keeping up with our blog, then you know that this was a traumatic birth, and that my wife and Super Mighty Max were in the hospital for some time after birth. However, what you may not know is, my wife had to have a partial hysterectomy (Don’t worry, I asked if I could share this) to save here life. She’s unable to  carry children anymore.

Therefore, when I get asked, How many children do you have? Do you want more children?” I’m thinking to myself,“do you want the long answer or the short answer?” Do I answer:

2 children in Heaven and 1 son”

“2 children deceased and 1 son”

1 son”

“We don’t want anymore children”

“We’ll wait and see if we have children”

“We’re going to adopt next time”

“We might pay six-figures for a surrogate”

“We can’t carry anymore children”

This is why its usually difficult for me to answer these questions, because I don’t know how to answer the questions sometimes, which is why I may be thinking; How Do I Answer this Question??? Dang, Why Did they Ask Me that Question?? Please, Don’t Ask Me that Question!

Just Being Honest,


%d bloggers like this: